nature vs nurture...right?
We hear it everywhere in this world today regarding homosexuality.
And yet if they were born this way…where’d they come from? As they’re born from a heterosexual act. Meaning the parents wouldn’t have the “needed gene”. And even if they did..it wouldn’t explain what is happening today with the ever increasing amount of people coming out.
And even in their research they admitted they didn’t find a gene that can cause homosexuality. Here’s a video explaining more.
So let’s just ponder the possibility that its more nurture than the world tells us…just for a moment. So we can look at the why someone could be attracted to the same sex.
Oh sure…I obviously won’t be able to share a books worth of theories in a few paragraphs. But here are some factors I’ve learned were apart of our dysfunction.
While no one (hopefully) starts out will ill intentions. But many times there are steps missing in development. And if one step isn’t done well it affects our development with all the remaining steps.
One of which is that infants are naturally attached to the mother more so than the father. That is until at age 18 months or so they start to notice there are different sexes. Usually by age 2 1/2 the boy starts to detach from the mother and look to the father as how to be masculine. The girl stays with the mother to learn how to be feminine.
This is the perfect scenario. But it is not the way of our fallen world usually. When these steps don’t take place, the child then starts to assume the identity of their opposite sex parent as children naturally need a role model. (Insert about a million scenarios here). Here’s a video called Homosexuality 101 to help explain it better than I can.
When Eve was cursed with desiring her husband, it’s not what we think that means. In the Hebrew it’s more clear that she is cursed to have desire over her husband. Meaning…we’re control freaks. (Ok not all of us).
But we’ve had a few generations now of passive men that have been beaten down starting with the feminist movement. (Here is a very telling video on the Jezebel spirit and the attack on manhood).
So the child sees that things aren’t quite right, but they know not why. Yet they sense their parents aren’t accepting their God given roles so they become confused. This confusion can lead to double mindedness, which is a component of homosexuality.
These are just a few scenarios. They may or may not fit. But if the latter fits, please be open to the Father teaching you how to have the husband be the leader of the home. Or if you’re the husband that you step up and lead. As it’s just confusing for the child.
Sexual abuse stops the child’s natural maturing process, and the enemy knows it. It’s how he programs us to do anything to get rid of the pain. Homosexuality or other sins.
Not to say all people with same sex attraction (SSA) were sexually abused. But the rates are higher in the community. I’ve read up to 2-3 times as much.
But after trying to find exact statistics to share with you I chose to opt out. Why? Because there are many studies and I don’t want to be accused of being biased. But let’s just say it’s higher for people with SSA to have been abused sexually.
I know many will say not my child. But I didn’t know about my abuse till my mid forties. I just ask you to be open to the idea.
Because they may need a safe place to go to, and you want that to be you! Because when people don’t believe us…we feel violated all over again.
Here’s a short (secular) video to see how many of the gay celebrities mention it.
Here’s one I highly recommend as it’s signs of sexual abuse.
Though…if the parent(s) were sexually abused the child can exhibit the same symptoms even without any abuse themselves. The enemy knows this and will go after our children even more.
Which leads me into the next heading.
Oh boy. No can of worms here.
In our family there was a curse of homosexuality coming through my side of our family. When the curse was taken care of I was hopeful our daughter would reach up to heaven and exclaim...it’s a miracle…I am healed.
Even though it didn’t happen (yet) I still think it’s imparative we as parents work at cleaning up our own “stuff”. I believe it’s a major way to give them a fighting chance against this epidemic.
And maybe it didn’t happen right then because there were still sins we needed to confess and deal with, as quite frankly we were still being disobedient.
- Speaking of stuff or sin. First put on your seatbelt as it’s about to get bumpy…
- But worth it as it could be a red herring.
- As I don’t think any mainstream Christian ministry has looked at this…yet.
I dont think I have to tell you what sodomy is. But what if there is an activity you didnt know was also sodomy?
I dont even know how to approach this other than to just state it.
Theres a very real possibility that oral sex is under the umbrella of sodomy.
And no one has told us. I wish I could give you an exact verse. But even then would you believe it? But I can give you a video. Is he 100% right?…not sure…
But I’d rather err on the side of caution and not worry about pleasure on this side of death if my repentance will cancel out the generational curse. And help to bring my daughter back.
I personally have been wondering about this activity for decades. I’ve asked many people I thought would know, but was always told that the marriage bed is undefiled.
So…does that mean we can do whatever we want? Insert forbidden activity here____and we’ve not sinned? I don’t think so. This never made sense to me…now I know why!
Because that’s not what the verse says:
It’s plain to me that it says the marriage bed MUST be kept undefiled…no free pass that I see.
In that sex is the only activity that’s a sin outside of marriage. And a blessing within a marriage. Why would it be a good idea to bring defiling acts into an undefined place? Would we bring an animal? A child? And then say “I am only giving my husband/wife pleasure”?
You see God is very concerned as to where His seed goes. It needs to go where it’s supposed to go. And anything to avoid creating life is creating death.
Here’s a softer video…one with answers as well.
Also the Bible never mentions anal sex, only men lying with men. So why do we assume it’s only anal sex? So I would agree with many that anything that the homosexuals have to do to imitate sex is sodomy. Because that’s always satans game…to copy God. And aren’t we told to be set apart, to not do as the pagans do?
And speaking of…after some digging I found out that oral sex has a lot of do with the worshipping of false gods during their orgies/rituals. Specifically Baal Peor. Remember in the book of Numbers chapter 25 where thousands were killed and died in plagues due to partaking in Baal Peor worship? Here’s a blog explaining it better than I can.
“It is God’s will that you should be sanctified: that you should avoid sexual immorality; that each of you should learn to control his own body in a way that is holy and honorable, not in passionate lust like the heathen, who do not know God” (1 Thessalonians 4:3-5, NIV).
I guess it’ll come down to whether or not you believe oral sex is holy and honorable. Or if it’s an act of lust that the heathens do. But in that we’re supposed to be set apart why risk it?
So…lets just say your convinced. (I know, I am getting my hopes up). But think of the ramifications if it is a sin. Maybe it’s why homosexuality has gotten out of control. Even most heterosexuals are for it. And can become pretty aggressive in their belief that they’re born that way.
Maybe, just maybe its because we’re in a world of sodomites without even knowing it. And they’re excusing it because subconsciously they know they’re in the same boat with them. As let’s face it…repentance is not an an easy thing to do.
So now let’s say with conjecture that this unconfessed sin has been passed down generations (one pastor said since the roman days) and that’s why it’s gotten completely out of control….not sure but it’s worth looking at in my opinion.
(Side note Rosaria Butterfield was a hard core lesbian activist. Who became a Christian and a pastors wife. And the author of “An Unlikely Convert”)
Oral sex, a seemingly harmless act to avoid too much intimacy or pregnancy…even committed decades ago. And yet could come with such dire consequences.
Hence why I think it could be the reason so many of us end up here, with children in the gay lifestyle. Because we just didn’t know.
For myself being orally raped at age four by my father it had many consequences.
- I received the curse generationally from my father.
- It taught me that’s how I could receive love and acceptance.
- I just went along with the programming.
- And though I was convicted to stop years ago, this has hit me pretty hard and have repented myself while writing this. Abuse is no excuse.
And maybe you’re saying…I’ve committed this act for decades and my children are just fine. Well, God bless you. But it’s still an act that could need to be repented of. After all scripture says sodomites won’t inherit the kingdom of God. And maybe being saved trumps sodomy. But are you willing to take the chance? Too bad you can’t ask those fallen Israelites.
Rev 11:8 “And their bodies will be on the street of the great city, which spiritually is called Sodom, and Egypt, where our Master was crucified”.
So reread Isaiah 19:22 and replace “Egypt” with the word “sodomy”. Maybe we’ve got some repenting and healing to do.
Ok if you’re convicted…what do we do? Glad you asked. It’s time for repentance. Here’s a prayer you can use.
Here’s also a site to assist you in getting rid of generational curses. It’s definitely worth your time.
The media has more to do with it than I can say. Here’s a blog post I wrote on media. But I’d consider throwing out all forms. Music, movies, especially Disney or cartoons. If I had to do it over I’d throw out the tv all together.
Wizard of oz is the absolute worse. (Notice how it’s very big in the gay community). It’s a movie that was used on me to suppress my memories of sexual abuse. And I couldn’t wait to share it with my daughter. *sigh*
She got hooked immediatly watching it like five times in a weekend when I rented it for her when she was 2 1/2. Put it on the list of things I’d do differently
But you are not here by accident. We are not in too deep that the Father can’t reach in and heal us to bring more healing than we can imagine.
But will it take some effort?…I believe so. But the rubber has met the road…and it may be time to deal. Our precious children are worth it.
If you didn’t know our son Timothy died at age 28. So hence why I will fight satan himself to get my daughter back.
And just so you know I have heart for those in the gay lifestyle. I only want the best for them…and that is our creator. He loves them very much and sent His son to die for them.
So thank you for reading all the way to the end…as I know it’s not exactly light reading!